I’m sitting here nursing my third kid. He’s falling asleep. I say that so anyone who doubts whether this opinionated person has kids can know that I do…. I have 3 boys — all 20 months apart. Crazy, I know.
I laugh that after a long reprise from blogging, the one thing that got me to open my computer again for the purpose of writing on a website that I may or may not link to social media sites for people (who shall remain nameless) to hopefully read and process is this. Sleep training.
I read a social media post today about a girl who is not allowing herself to nurse her 2 month old to sleep at night. I find this ridiculous. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love my mom’s group, my Wonder Weeks app, and the variety of sleep counsel I get on the http://www.babysleepsite.com, but I find myself rolling my eyes and shaking my head at the incessant idea that sleep training infants is a proven science.
These are not animals. These are not items. These are not inanimate objects without feelings, insecurities, indigestion, developmental stages, and emotional desires. These are little humans. Is it really so bad to be nursing your 2-month old to sleep? Must you really insist that this infant who just 8 weeks ago was inside you might want the comfort f their parent to relax into slumber? Why does everything this early have be so scientific, so scheduled, so cut and dry.
Don’t get me wrong. There is some sleep training that needs to happen eventually. Kids can’t just “put themselves to bed” or act without a schedule or run around like crazy until they’re literally falling asleep half climbing on the couch (this is another topic that gets me just as heated). However, when we’re talking about infants who have no way to communicate fear, pain, hunger, etc., without crying, I am so against the sleeping-training-is-king mentality that is actually makes me boil over inside.
Get a grip, people. Your little one is only little so long. I promise you it gets better, you can schedule them up later, you’ll have lots of time to undo the “Oh no, I rocked him to sleep again tonight” that you fear so much in the next 5 years. Get over it, pick up that baby, and rock him to sleep! Soon he won’t want to be rocked, he won’t want you to sing to him, he won’t want to be snuggled, and he won’t want to be held. Life is too short, and this season goes too fast to worry about sleep training a 2-month old.